Choosing a loved one as officiant, a bad idea?

Dear Lovers,

Do you want a loved one to celebrate your secular wedding ceremony? Choosing a loved one as officiant often seems like the simplest solution for couples. Indeed, your loved ones are those who know you best and seem to be in the best position to put together a ceremony that suits you.

So far, the approach does indeed seem logical. You still have to choose the right person! 1st offending the sensibilities of others. Why choose your brother rather than your sister? Why one friend rather than another? Why someone close to you rather than your other half? There, I can't help you so some advice: Diplomacy!

2nd It is crucial to choose a person who can play this role to perfection. For example, if you choose a shy and reserved person who turns bright red every time they have to say a word in public, they risk having insomnia during the entire preparation period and, even worse, losing all their wits. Day!

Furthermore, if he or she is reserved, this person will certainly not dare refuse your offer, for fear of offending you, but know that in most cases, if this role is considered an honor, it is also seen as a heavy responsibility. . So, if you are considering choosing someone who is introverted by nature, be aware that if this person panics on the big day, stammers at every sentence and shakes uncontrollably, the fluidity, tone and lightness of your secular wedding ceremony may be compromised. 'be altered. Do not inflict this ordeal on a loved one who is not used to speaking in public.

Instead, choose an extroverted person who is comfortable speaking, due, for example, to their personality or profession. This person will take pleasure in preparing and celebrating your ceremony. Attention ! Also, don't choose someone who is too comfortable and likes to be the center of attention because they will enjoy playing the role of officiant so much that they risk forgetting that the ceremony is supposed to focus on you rather than on her.

To summarize, avoid people who are shy or not experienced in public speaking techniques as well as those who risk taking too much ownership of your ceremony.

A good budding officiant will:

• Know you well

• Be patient & conciliatory (Listen to you rather than imposing your own ideas)

• Know how to write & speak in public

• Be organized (Coordinate the intervention of loved ones, music, text, etc. on time).

I hope this article will be useful to you in making your choice and if you ultimately choose to use the services of a professional officiant, contact us .

See you soon !

Magali